Welcome back. Hope everyone who participated in yesterday’s exercise gained a clearer understanding of what their true beliefs are. I wanted to use the backdoor approach because as Phillip Graves and the illustrious Mr. Jalopy pointed out, if I asked you what your beliefs were outright, your internal processing would kick in and influence your answer. You would likely give an answer based on the very conditioning you are trying to bring to conscious awareness in the first place. It is a vicious cycle that often subverts any deep, real and lasting change.
The very filters that are holding you back by distorting incoming information, making broad generalizations, or flat out deleting what does not conform to their interpretations of the world are the ones that you need to make change! Your job is to develop awareness to see when your internal processing is serving you and when it is not and to redirect it to serve you.
Awareness is the key to understanding and change. If you are aware of something while you are doing it, it won’t be able to wield power over you for very long. When I say this, I am not referring to knowing you do something. We can know we engage in an unskillful or destructive behavior but still be unable to do anything about it.
This work is not easy, but it is also not hard. It’s just that the things we are trying to change are the very things that are meant to please, protect and serve us in the first place. They are just doing their jobs. If life is not going how we want and we are making decisions that don’t serve us, the programming no longer serves us. They like the familiar even when it harms us. They are comfortable in their discomfort.
Like I said before, we would rather be right than happy.
The defensive styles we developed in our childhood and our earlier years usually become anachronistic later in life and do not serve us. If you had many positive experiences then maybe they do most of the time. But even the most well adjusted person has blind spots and could use a little fine tuning to be more for life.
I remember reading something by Suzuki Roshi a few years back that went something like…
” we are all perfect as we are but there is also room for improvement.”
I like that one. Pay attention to your life and how you affect yourself and others, but don’t freak out about it when you are going about things, in what others tell you or you perceive to be, the wrong way. Be grateful, pay attention, take action and just as importantly, take the action of no-action. Be wise. Be compassionate. Be understanding. Be yourself!
That is the end of this transmission. We will finish our exercise in next few days.
Until then…
Kind regards,
A
Welcome back everybody. Today we are going to get back on track and into the second part of our beliefs exercise.
A few days ago we were asked to finish sentences such as: I am ____. The world is____. People are____.
We were also asked to create a few of our own based on our concerns, curiosity or areas of difficulty.
The intention behind that part of the exercise was to get a clearer picture of our more general beliefs.
For the second part, we are going to get more specific. We will do this by looking into some important areas of our lives in order to determine the results we are getting and to identify the beliefs that are driving them. All it takes is a bit of honest reflection so let’s get right into it.
1. Self-esteem/Self-worth
Results:
Beliefs that would get such results:
2. Career
Results:
Beliefs that would get such results:
3. Romantic relationships
Results:
Beliefs that would get such results:
4. Family relationships
Results:
Beliefs that would get such results:
5. Friends
Results:
Beliefs that would get such results:
6. Money/Prosperity
Results:
Beliefs that would get such results:
7. Physical and mental health
Results:
Beliefs that would get such results:
These obviously aren’t the only major areas of our lives, but they do cover a bit of territory. If there is something I missed, add it too the list and do the same.
This exercise can really open up one’s eyes to some blind spots in life. I know it did for me.
Well, that is enough for today. Stay tuned in the coming days for the final two parts (I added one) in which we will tie these together for a greater understanding of our beliefs and how they are creating our lives.
That concludes today’s transmission. Until next time…
Kind Regards,
A
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