Lisa McLellan
Babysitting Services – Babysitters and Nannies

I saw JJ’s comment and as usual, nearly fell off the sofa laughing.

I like the idea of staying OPEN to the people we meet. Indeed, when I coach dating clients as they go on their Date O (First Date from Online Dating), I recommend they become Relationship Ambassadors and seek out the Gold in that person. Ambassadors know how to converse with people from different cultures than theirs and make the other person feel special and attended to. When we do so, we immediately increase our own attractiveness in the world. For single baby boomers are not always looking to Get Married. Or if they are, they are not always wanting in the marriage relationship the same things they wanted in marriage in their 20s and 30s (suburb house, 3 children, 9-5 corporate job life). So, practice our graciousness. Like the Dali Lama and Queen Elizabeth.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Single Baby Boomer Dating Success Expert

On the other hand, if we come from dysfunctional relationships we will be attracted to the exact dysfunction we are familiar and comfortable with. This is the reason most people always find themselves in the same relationship with different people. It is tough to break the cycle.

Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Training Expert

At first I, a bit like Darryl, thought you might be encouraging me to share my massive throbbing gift with a whole ton of hotties. (That sentence amuses and embarasses me in equal measure so it’s staying.)

But I love the way you concluded this:

“Next time you find yourself attracted to someone take a moment to ask what it is that you can give them that will aid their progress in life or enrich them in some way. Don’t get hung up on finding an answer…just rest in the question and let life do the rest.”

Yeah. There’s wisdom here bro. Makes me want to get naked and run around in a meadow full of daisies. Or something,

P.S. You need to move some files around your server… I’ll stick it in an email.

Good point. Depends on what that gift is…lol! I don’t mean that it has to be a romantic attraction or that we necessarily share anything at all. I guess I just wanted the focus on thoughts of giving rather than getting or taking.

But like I stated in the post, it could be encouragement a smile, etc and the giving has to be done with integrity and with a loving heart and also in a way that honors our commitments.

Anthony

Nice post. It’s for the single people, right? It doesn’t seem wise for married folks to freely share their “gifts” with people they’re attracted to…unless it’s their spouse. Whaddya think?

Health, Fitness — Darryl Pace
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I really like this post! It is so true that we attach our stuff to people and try to make them special.

As a woman, I appreciate your insight into observing how something is being said and the body language that accompanies it. Many people, often men (sorry guys), just do not pay attention and miss that opportunity to see the “unmet need.”

I was startled by your point on how we turn ourselves and others into projects. I know this now but if I would have known it when I was in my 20′s…

Regards,
Karen